I am responsible

Saturday, October 29th, 2011

– I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR WORKING HARD

– I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR STAYING FOCUSED

 – IAM RESPONSIBLE FOR MY MOTIVATION.

– I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR THE THOUGHTS I CHOOSE

– I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR THE FEELINGS I HAVE

– I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR THINGS I DO.

 – I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT I LEARN FROM MY TEACHER/COACH

– I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT I SAY

 – I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR CONTROLLING MY BEHAVIOR

– I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR HOW I SPEND MY MONEY

– I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR EATING GOOD FOOD

– I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR HYDRATING BEFORE, DURING AND AFTER SPORTS ACTIVIITES

– I AM RESPONSBILE FOR PLAYING BY THE RULES

– I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR TREATING OTHERS WITH RESPECT

– I AM RESPONSIBLE TO GETTING REST TO HEAL AND RECOVER

– I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR MANAGING MY MISTAKES

– I AM RESPONSBILE FOR ACHIEVING MY GOALS

– I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR MY SUCCESS

– I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR MY HAPPINESS

Taking responsibility is not always easy but in the long run is related to being mentally fit and strong and successful in many areas of life. In my work as a sport psychologist, I often meet individuals who quickly and easily blame others for their short comings and failures rather then looking inside themselves. For those who stop playing the blame game and live responsibly, success and happiness are likely outcomes.

Overcoming Tennis “Jitters”

Friday, December 17th, 2010

Feeling nervous, to some extent is a normal and even a positive aspect as performing well. However, when nervousness escalates, performance declines. This is especially  true in sports like tennis and golf, where optimal levels of arousal tend to be in the lower ranges.

Tennis “jitters” result in increased muscle tension, bad decisions and distractibility. Ultimately, this leads to increased errors and a greater number of lost points. 

Nowhere is this more obvious than in a typical doubles match among intermediate level players, especially while serving in a critical point of a match. 

As a “sports psychologist” and active competitive tennis player, it is easy to observe this. When the score is 40-30 and the server misses his or her first serve, the second serve is often just “lobbed in” to avoid the dreaded double fault. In reality, attempting to lob the ball in rather than attempting to hit a reasonable second serve with spin, pace and a margin for error, is probably no more reliable and results in the same amount of double faults. On top of that, a ball that lands short and softly allows the returner all the time in the world to place the ball wherever they want. In short, you end up losing the point anyway.

The cure for tennis jitters is to care less about making the mistake in the first place. Rather than worrying about the double fault, losing the point, caring what others may think, take a deep breath, visualize the second serve as being successful and just go for it! Whatever happens, happens. 

When I work with my clients, whether face to face in my Boca Raton, Florida office or over the phone, I go into the process of effective coping in far greater detail and often teach and incorporate other strategies to overcome these and other long term negative habits.

The beauty of tennis is it is a game for life and you can improve some aspect of your play and performance throughout your playing career.

TIGER’S HAREM

Saturday, December 19th, 2009

What a surprise. The World’s most famous and richest athlete likes sex, variety and beautiful women and had been secretly having multiple affairs. The rich and powerful have had mistresses since the beginning of time. Kings and princes still have harem’s.

Women, for their part like nice things, being treated well and often feel  flattered to be “selected” and enjoy their celebrity status (by association).

The rich and famous are often risk takers and either don’t think they will get caught or feel their influence and power will be able to get them out of any trouble should it arise.

Many men are  (were) probably envious or jealous of Tiger and the line of women wanting to be part of the harem likely forms to the left.

Now that the Tiger is out of the bag, it is not politically correct to support any of his actions or behaviors. It is politically correct to feel bad for his innocent wife and children. So, Tiger will likely pay a heavy price both financially and emotionally for his flings and affairs and not many will feel sorry for him.

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Saturday, December 19th, 2009

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Obama: Lessons Learned

Thursday, January 22nd, 2009

Reflecting on the inauguration I think about what can we learn from this amazing achievement. It strikes me that beyond Obama’s good looks, charm and intelligence is a work ethic that serves as a great model for all of us. Without this work ethic of dedication, discipline, perseverance and managing adversity, he never would have made it to this point in his life. On the other hand, even if he weren’t elected President, his values, goals and work ethic would serve him well in life regardless of the direction he chose.

To those who are dominated by pessimistic thinking, “ It’s too hard, too difficult, has never been done, can’t be done”, learn to challenge your pessimistic thoughts. Working hard and smart can lead to good results!

Coping with Chronic Pain

Monday, November 3rd, 2008

Chronic pain is often made much worse by negative beliefs individuals have or develop as a result of the pain. Learning to identify, challenge and replace these negative beliefs with more rational, positive ones can alleviate a great deal of the pain. Installing healthier beliefs using hypnosis can sometimes result in more rapid and profound results.

Coping with Financial Crisis

Saturday, October 25th, 2008

The serious financial crisis has caused many people to literally “panic”. Panic leads to both poor decision making and negative health consequences. Financial experts recommend most us “stay the course”. That is, if you didn’t sell 1-2 months ago, don’t sell now. While everyone’s circumstance is different, calming oneself down first, reviewing decisions with competent advisers and accepting things that aren’t in our control will help you sleep better and avoid making “bad” choices. In the meantime, take deep breaths throughout the day and don’t be watching the news all day or following the market every 15 minutes unless you are a day trader.

Olympic Gold: Is it worth it?

Wednesday, August 13th, 2008

I wonder if the price of Olympic Gold is worth it. Children give up their childhood to train 5-8 hours a day for years for a chance to compete in an event that may last under a minute. Athlete’s desperate to win, turn to drugs for an unfair advantage. Other athlete’s seek to become a citizen of a foreign country and compete against their own country for a piece of the gold. Coach’s have no loyalty to their country and train player’s of another country for the almighty dollar. Country’s fire coaches who refuse to run their athlete’s into the group by training seven days a week. I wonder, is it worth it?

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Saturday, July 26th, 2008

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